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Hugging

We all like, need, want, crave to some effect, to be touched.  I love being touched....hold my hand, rub my back, kick my ass...whatever, I'll take it!  Being a mom to 3 beautiful wee girls, touching happens a lot at our house.  I have created touchy children.  It's a way for me to communicate how much I love them.  Every night I "tickle" their backs.  My mum used to do that for me every night.  Kamrin has graduated to wanting back rubs....I do them but often leave her feeling jealous cause I didn't get one back! :)  My family grew up as non-kissers.  However, I have made an effort to break that and love to get and give little kisses to my girls.  I have also learned to kiss other family and friends - and have perfected the 'double' kiss that involves air kissing each cheek.  I always' feel very posh when I pull that one out of my repetoire.  I love holding hands and know the day will come that the girls won't be as cool with it.  Fortunately, Kamrin is a cuddler like me and altho she is weeks shy of being a teenager, she still holds my hand in public!!
But the best thing is a hug.  I love hugs.  I love to give em and I love to get em.  I grew up with a Dad who didn't really hug.  He did the side thing.  We would try - but he had a way of turning a full-frontal to a sophisticated-side.  For years I would laugh at it and roll my eyes at it...but have now embraced it as simply "his way".  When I go to church in White Rock, after an absence of a year or two, that's where I get loads of hugs.  I stand in the back corner and the hugs just keep coming...I am the prodigal daughter...returned to the promised land (White Rock) after years in the big city (Toronto).  My sister thinks it's funny how I make such an effort to get to the early service....but I do it cause I know that I'll be showered with love and hugs...lots of hugs.
My sister is a patter.  She pats my back constantly...almost keeping rythm...and I love it.  We don't get to hug often as she is far away - so I hug her lots when I am with her.  Perhaps I annoy her with it, but truly, I don't care. 
Hugs can become awkward.  It's all in the timing of the squeeze and release.  Know when to release.  Listen to what the other body is telling you.  I used to feel selfconscious when I released to early, or vice versa.  I am getting to the point where I am able  to read it pretty good and have avoided awkward moments! :)
Today I am looking forward to a hug from my friend Angela.  She is a lot taller than me and is Dutch and gives solid hugs.  I need one today...especially her kind...she will have me wrapped up in her arms...and I'll feel loved....it doesn't take much:) 
Screw hugging a tree, hug a friend today instead....they hug back.

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  1. Betty Goode28 March 2012 at 21:59

    I agree with everything you have said. I lovee to hug and be hugged. I am so blessed to have 3 wonderful granddaughters - 2 of whom love to hug. We will be teaching our 2 month old Anna to do the same thing.
    You are the best hugger and I wish you lived closer. It was so lovely to see you and your girls, and to hug you again. Keep coming to that first service when you are in town - we all love you!! Betty

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